Ihave found coming out of one year into another that we will with much prayer and fasting and just a sense of hopelessness be able to walk in the true love of God. The names we have given this word has been taken of of context of what the real word should have meant. I look at how many times i felt like I was in love and used that word so loosely that it affected the lives I spoke it to including my own. Our own sense of belonging will cause us to gravitate to those things and people that make us feel accepted and "loved". When we havent gotten the love of God established in our lives we begin to create what we believe is love. I remember having these fantasies in my mind of how my family relations and boyfriend relations should be even my own marriage, nevertheless I didnt have the understanding of what love really was . I begin to settle for what was given to me and change what I thought I deserved.